Yes, sure a no can turn into a yes some day.  There are many stories of guys asking a girl out and she says no initially, but after romantic planning and quirks, she eventually says yes.  That’s fine.  But a man does not force that yes from a girl or anyone.  
When a girl says no, she says no. If she doens’t want to go out with you after repeated signs of non-interest, then its no.  If she doesn’t want to have sex, then its a no. A gentleman always respects other people’s choices.  The difference between being romantic and rape is the ability to give someone a choice.  You can always do romantic things to try and win a girls heart if she rejects  you the first time.  But that doesn’t mean spiking her drink or using some drug.  A real gentleman (or man) does not drug or rape a girl.  He doesn’t guilt trip someone.  You don’t manipulate your friends into doing what  you want.  Let other people have their say.  Taking advantage of someone physically or emotionally is just plain wrong, and I wish more people knew that.  
So guys, don’t force someone into doing something they don’t want to do.  Men don’t take advantage of others and above all, don’t rape.  If your girlfriend says no, then don’t it. Wait till she brings it up again and wants to do it or even just drop the subject. Girls, if you find yourself in a position of being forced into something you have no intention of doing, don’t do it.  Don’t tell yourself “well he’s my boyfriend and I should do it” or “he’s done so much for me, I should do this for him” or even that  you deserve it. No one deserves to do something they don’t want to do.  Tell someone. Get help.  
A mean hears a no. A real man listens to it.  

Yes, sure a no can turn into a yes some day.  There are many stories of guys asking a girl out and she says no initially, but after romantic planning and quirks, she eventually says yes.  That’s fine.  But a man does not force that yes from a girl or anyone.  

When a girl says no, she says no. If she doens’t want to go out with you after repeated signs of non-interest, then its no.  If she doesn’t want to have sex, then its a no. A gentleman always respects other people’s choices.  The difference between being romantic and rape is the ability to give someone a choice.  You can always do romantic things to try and win a girls heart if she rejects  you the first time.  But that doesn’t mean spiking her drink or using some drug.  A real gentleman (or man) does not drug or rape a girl.  He doesn’t guilt trip someone.  You don’t manipulate your friends into doing what  you want.  Let other people have their say.  Taking advantage of someone physically or emotionally is just plain wrong, and I wish more people knew that.  

So guys, don’t force someone into doing something they don’t want to do.  Men don’t take advantage of others and above all, don’t rape.  If your girlfriend says no, then don’t it. Wait till she brings it up again and wants to do it or even just drop the subject. Girls, if you find yourself in a position of being forced into something you have no intention of doing, don’t do it.  Don’t tell yourself “well he’s my boyfriend and I should do it” or “he’s done so much for me, I should do this for him” or even that  you deserve it. No one deserves to do something they don’t want to do.  Tell someone. Get help.  

A mean hears a no. A real man listens to it.  

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